[Video] Dr. Chris Germer: “We would never feel shame if we didn’t wish to be loved.”
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If you’d like to go deeper in learning how to alleviate shame through self-compassion, we encourage you to check out Dr. Chris Germer’s upcoming workshop Self-Compassion: An Antidote to Shame through the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. During this 6-hour workshop, taking place November 1 & 9, participants will gain a science-based understanding of shame, and learn how to apply self-compassion to meet and transform shame in everyday life. Therapists will also learn how to teach simple and powerful self-compassion practices to clients.
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About Chris Germer
Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School. He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and MSC has since been taught to over 100,000 people worldwide. They co-authored two books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program.
Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion. He is also the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion; he co-edited two influential volumes on therapy, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy; and he maintains a small private practice in Arlington, Massachusetts, USA.
I really love this short video. it is so clearly given and I got a lot out of it. I have your book THE MINDFUL PATH TO SELF-COMPASSION but being age 84 it is hard to change long held habits but I continue to try.
Thanks so much Chris! I need to listen to talks like this alot to remember what shame and self-compassion are all about. I really appreciate you not using ultra-intellectual language so that you can be understood by anyone but yet you still convey such a positive and kind message. 🙂
Like always dear Chris, you open my heart:-). Thank you very much. Love, Andrea
Thank you so much for this video. Very helpful.
Thank you Chris and Co. for your beautiful work MSC. It feels True – coupling Shame with the wish to be Loved; and nominating the hurt of not feeling loveable. It really makes sense that unbearable (seemingly) hurt is the reason we’ve forgotten that innocent wish/need to be loved. The world is surely benefitting from these understandings and teachings.
This is such a beautiful and healing balm. It makes feeling shame less shameful .
Great points for a gentle way to release shame. Thank you for your work and for making the world a brighter place!
Just wanted to shed some light on the poem. It was written by Hafiz, who lived 1315-1390 and was translated by Daniel Ladinsky.
Read the prologue for the book, the way we never were. I grew up in the 60’s and our family was not like, Father knows best. I thought every our family was like that. This portrayal of a family created such shame for me. I have never gotten over this, maybe now I can begin to heal myself. Thank you for this insight 🙏 Namaste
Thank you, Chris, for your thoughtful differentiation between the innocence of shame’s survival origins AND it’s consequences without awareness. I was blessed today to learn from your kind wisdom. Peace, T.G. LPC
Dear Chris, Thank you for sharing this loving and kind perspective on the tender underbelly of shame and the sweet, vulnerable and innocent need to be loved. You precipitated an “ah ha” moment. It wasn’t really attention I was seeking as a child…it was a need to feel loved. As an adult I still feel this need to feel and be loved. I have great difficulty receiving and giving love which paradoxically is the antidote to feeling scared, vulnerable and unloveable. I will gently and slowly meditate and journal on the universal human need to be loved. Harry Harlow discovered this with his monkey experiments. You put it into simple and meaningful language that somehow opens my heart. My transformation is in process. With love and gratitude for the light you shine from within your big and tender heart, ESK
thank you so much for this video
Thank you Chris,
I am a counsellor working with Students at university and although I have been practicing mindfulness for 10 years and have become a mindfulness teacher through the Mindfulness Association, I have been struggling with shame. I really connected to what you said about the innocent one just wanting to be loved. I look forward to practicing this self-compassion meditation over a period of time to see how this could help with my shame.
Thanks again.
Joseph
Chris,
I agree the shame that is manifested comes from wanting to “ Be liked” As children out care givers are what we learn from . If a child feels unloved and parent’s do not treat them with love and allow them to see it’s ok to make mistakes .
A child will most likely take this into other relationships and Shame is sad because our children should be loved and cared for.
Thank you ,
Lori English , MSW